Some Thoughts on Productive Conversations Regarding Ethnic Relations

Of all the possible conversations we might have, discussions regarding ethnic relations and ethnic related issues arguably are some of the most difficult. Several factors practically guarantee this reality. First, history (not to mention present circumstances) indicates that people do not have a good track record regarding ethnic relations. Second, communication is not what it ought to be because of how uncomfortable it can be to examine the necessary subjects. Third, it is easy to get defensive when we consider the hard topics (e.g., “What you’re saying doesn’t apply to me.” “That wasn’t me who did those things”). Fourth, we’re much better at identifying problems than we are at suggesting practical, concrete solutions. The two following New Testament verses, which provide helpful counsel regarding the manner that we should speak to one another.

but speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in all aspects into Him who is the head, even Christ (Ephesians 4:15, NASB)

This you know, my beloved brethren. But everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak and slow to anger (James 1:19)

When we apply these teachings to the topic of the discussion of ethnic relations, the following principles emerge:

·      Speaking the truth is important, even when it is uncomfortable or painful.
·      The companion of truth is love. How we speak the truth is just as important as what we say.
·      For believers, the end result of speaking the truth in love should be growing closer to Christ as well as growing closer to one another.
·      Listening well is essential to having productive conversations. Too often we listen poorly because we are more interested in our response, or getting our “two cents” in, than the other person’s words.
·      We must measure every response we make through the filters of wisdom and love. Are my words truthful and kind?
·      Anger toward each other has no place in productive ethnic conversations. Instead of growing angry, let’s use our energy to tackle problems together.


The preceding thoughts are by no means exhaustive, but they are good places to start. What are some approaches to ethnic relations conversations that you’ve found helpful?

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